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Election 2015: which political parties are men and women supporting?

February 7, 2015 by Inside MAN 2 Comments

Does being male or female make any difference to the way you vote? As the general election draws closer, a new survey for BBC Woman’s Hour by TNS has revealed which parties men and women are most likely to support.

Unusually for a political poll, the survey doesn’t ask the obvious “who are you going to vote for” question, rather it asks questions like “which political party do you think BEST understands the issues that WORRY you and your family” and “which of the following party leaders do you think BEST UNDERSTANDS what life is like for you and your FAMILY”.

The idea of constructing a political question around notions of family seems to be in line with feminine concerns about politics. In our article eight reasons UK women are more left wing than men we revealed that women seem to think more about family when making political choices.

Do men think family when voting?

According to Dr Rosie Campbell, women are more inclined to view politics through the lens of family life. In one set of focus groups, Campbell recorded 77 mentions of family from women, compared with 11 men. Lord Ashcroft Polls also found that only women mentioned “family” in their top 20 words when asked to describe the characters of Cameron, Clegg and Milliband.

Focusing on “worry” as a political motivator also seems to be a more feminine concern. The Woman’s Hour poll also asked the following question: “Thinking about the future, would you say that you are very worried, fairly worried, not very worried or not at all worried?”

The survey found that more women (52%) described themselves as being worried than men (43%) with one in seven women (14%) saying they are very worried about the future compared with one in eleven (9%) men. At the other end of the worry scale, men were nearly twice as likely to say they are not at all worried (28% to 15%).

Are men are still more right wing than women?

In recent years, men have tended to be slightly more right leaning in their voting patterns than women and the Woman’s Hour poll confirms this. More men (33%) thought UKIP and the Conservatives understand the issues they worry about, compared with 20% of women. On the left, while slightly more women (20%) support Labour than men (19%), when you add in the other left-leaning parties (Green, Liberal and SNP) then men (34%) outnumber women (32%).

The reason that more men support parties on the left AND the right is that women are more likely to be floating voters, with 46% of women not favouring any party compared with 32% of men. It this greater uncertainty about which way women will voter, which makes the women’s vote so important to politicians, as women seem to more likely than men to swing towards one party or another as an election draws near.

Which leaders do men and women love?

A similar pattern is found in terms of specific leaders with men more likely to support Cameron (15%) and Farage (13%) than women (10% support Cameron, 6% Farage) and women more likely to favour Milliband (12%) and Clegg (6%) compared to men (9% support Milliband and 4% Clegg). Men, however, are more likely to support Nicola Sturgeon (7%) and  Natalie Bennett (5%) than women, with only 3% of female voters supporting these women leaders.

As with the political parties, women (59%) are more likely to say they don’t support any of the leaders than men (45%)

Which political party do you think BEST understands the issues that WORRY you and your family? 

POLITICAL PARTY MALE VOTERS FEMALE VOTERS
The Labour Party 19% 20%
The Conservative Party 21% 12%
UKIP 12% 8%
The Green Party 6% 5%
The Liberal Democrats 5% 5%
SNP (Scottish National Party) 4% 2%
Plaid Cymru 1% <1%
None of the above 21% 25%
Don’t Know 11% 21%

Which of the following party leaders do you think BEST UNDERSTANDS what life is like for you and your FAMILY?

POLITICAL PARTY MALE VOTERS FEMALE VOTERS
David Cameron 15% 10%
Ed Milliband 9% 12%
Nigel Farage 13% 6%
Nick Clegg 4% 6%
Nicola Sturgeon 7% 3%
Natalie Bennett 5% 3%
Leanne Wood <1% <1%
None of the above 41% 48%
Don’t Know 4% 11%

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Article by Glen Poole author of the book Equality For Men

Also on insideMAN:

  • Election 2015: the political issues that concern men and women 
  • BBC Woman’s Hour hides the fact that male voters are more supportive of women leaders 
  • Shock as new Woman’s Hour poll finds women are brilliant and men are crap
  • Are men more right wing and women more left wing?
  • Eight reasons British women are more left wing than men 
  • Should we allow gender politics to be taught in UK schools?

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BBC Woman’s Hour hides the fact that male voters are more supportive of women leaders

February 7, 2015 by Inside MAN Leave a Comment

The BBC’s Woman’s Hour programme has hidden the fact that a poll it conducted revealed that women are less supportive of female leaders.

 

 

 

The survey conducted by TNS for Woman’s Hour asked men and women:

  • How well do you think Theresa May would perform as leader of Conservative Party?
  • How well do you think Yvette Cooper would perform as leader of the Labour Party?
  • Which of the following female leaders to you think best understands your family?

What the poll revealed was that:

  • Men were more likely than women to say Theresa May would perform very well as leader
  • Men were more likely than women to say Yvette Cooper would perform very well as leader
  • Men were more likely to say that Nicola Sturgeon of the SNP understands what life is like for their family
  • Men were more likely to say that Natalie Bennett (Green Party) understands what life is like for their family
  • Men were equally likely to say that Leanne Wood (Plaid Cymru) understands what life is like for their family

Yet the fact that men appear to be more supportive of female leaders than women was not reported by the tax-payer funded Woman’s Hour team on their website. They instead chose to only highlight the fact that:

  • More men think Theresa May would perform badly as leader compared to women (33% vs. 20%)
  • More men than women think Yvette Cooper would perform badly as leader (26% vs. 19%)

Positive facts about men ignored

The fact that men outnumbered women in both the “perform well” and “perform badly” category is down to a common statistical anomaly in political polls—namely that women tend to be more likely to express no opinion. Put another way, men are more opinionated or decisive and women are more discerning or indecisive.

So 36% of women had no opinion of Theresa May’s ability as a leader (compared to 23% of men) and 44% of women didn’t express a view about Yvette Cooper’s leadership potential (compared with 35% of men).

It is notable, however, that the BBC’s Woman’s Hour chose only to highlight the one statistic in the report that seemed to put men in a bad light (in relation to their attitudes about female politicians) and ignored the fact that more men in the survey, were more supportive of female leaders.

Jane Garvey, the programme’s presenter, went a step further and tried to give the false impression that female leaders are less popular with men, by putting the the following question to Michelle Harrison, who is the CEO of TNS, the company behind the survey. Garvey confidently stated:

“Theresa May …was more popular amongst women than men, right?

Harrison dodged the opportunity to put Garvey straight saying:

“Well she was actually surprisingly popular….two-fifths of all adults we polled though Theresa May would perform well as the leader of the Conservative Party. But what actually did come through was that more men think that she would perform badly as leader compared to women.”

This has nothing to do with men judging female leaders more harshly and everything to do with men being more likely to express an opinion—either way—no matter what gender the politician is.

You would  think that a programme like Woman’s Hour would be celebrating the fact that men are more likely to be supportive of female, political leaders. But no, this doesn’t fit with the programme’s narrative of constantly claiming that when it comes to gender, women HAVE problems an men ARE the problem.

 —Photo: flickr/vectorportal

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Article by Glen Poole author of the book Equality For Men

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  • Election 2015: which political parties are men and women supporting? 
  • Election 2015: the political issues that concern men and women 
  • Shock as new Woman’s Hour poll finds women are brilliant and men are crap
  • Are men more right wing and women more left wing?
  • Eight reasons British women are more left wing than men 
  • Should we allow gender politics to be taught in UK schools?

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Election 2015: the political issues that concern men and women

February 7, 2015 by Inside MAN Leave a Comment

A survey conducted by TNS for Woman’ Hour asked men and women which three issues are concerning them most in the run up to the 2015 General Election.

Both men and women put The NHS and the Cost of Living as there top two priorities and placed immigration in the top five. Other issues revealed some differences in political priorities between men and women, as the table below reveals.

Which of the three following things, if any, are you concerned about?

Rank Men’s Top 10 Political Issues Women’s Top 10 Political Issues
1 The NHS (50%) The NHS (59%)
2 Cost of Living (41%) Cost of Living (40%)
3 Immigration (32%) Cost of Caring for Family (30%)
4 The Economy (31%) Immigration (29%)
5 Pensions (24%) Education (28%)
6 Education (22%) Pensions (24%)
7 Cost of Caring for Family (20%) The Economy (21%)
8 Welfare/Benefits (16%) Welfare/Benefits (19%)
9 Crime (16%) Crime (16%)
10 Europe (14%) Tax (13%)
11 Tax (12%) Europe (9%)
12 Transport (8%) Transport (3%)

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Article by Glen Poole author of the book Equality For Men

Also on insideMAN:

  • Election 2015: which political parties are men and women supporting?
  • BBC Woman’s Hour hides the fact that male voters are more supportive of women leaders 
  • Shock as new Woman’s Hour poll finds women are brilliant and men are crap
  • Are men more right wing and women more left wing?
  • Eight reasons British women are more left wing than men 
  • Should we allow gender politics to be taught in UK schools?

 

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This year’s Super Bowl adverts are the most dad positive ever

January 28, 2015 by Inside MAN Leave a Comment

America’s 49th Super Bowl, to be held this weekend, will bombard over 100 million televisions viewers with positive messages about fatherhood.

Super Bowl Sunday consistently produces the largest TV audience of the year in America and the competition amongst advertisers to create the most memorable commercial has become part of the annual tradition.

This year, for the first time, advertisers are not just fighting to create the best ad, but also to create the most father-friendly campaign. For an insight into the rapidly changing nature of advertising to dads in America. According to Jack Neff of Ad Age, adverts have often ignored dads or portrayed them as “a dolt, but not at this year’s Super Bowl.

During Super Bowl XLIX (that’s 49 if you don’t read Roman numerals), at least three major advertisers will run adverts promoting positive portrayals of fatherhood. They are:

Nissan #WithDad Campaign

Nissan’s #WithDad campaign features a series of seven teaser videos from popular YouTube broadcasters ahead of its main advert which will be revealed during the game. The teasers include this “crazy plastic ball prank” from Roman Antwood:

http://youtu.be/8yEgN3yj6xY

Nissan says: “We recognise the difficult task of balancing work and family life. That’s why of #WithDad campaign brings this very real struggle to life. #WithDad is a celebration of and inspiration for dads who find innovative and exciting ways to make life better for their kids and families.”

Toyota #OneBoldChoice Campaign

Toyota’s “One Bold Choice Leads to Another” campaign will feature both famous dads and everyday fathers who they say have made “bold, lasting contributions to the their families”. This trailer for the #OneBoldChoice campaign, called “To Be A Dad”, stars a number of American football players:

http://youtu.be/PZ-Yiuc9sOQ

Dove Men+Care #RealStrength

Dove’s #RealStrength advert shows kids of all ages calling on their father in a montage of emotional moments that capture some of the key stages n the fatherhood journey:

Dove says: “Ninety per cent of men around the world say that their caring side is part of their masculinity and strength. Let’s acknowledge the caring side of men and celebrate their #RealStrength as a true sign of masculinity.”

—Photo: Flickr/Jeepers Media

In the run up to launch of the film Down Dog on 14 February, insideMAN is running a series of articles about fatherhood and we’d love you to get involved. You can join the conversation on twitter by using the hashtag #MenBehavingDADly; leave a comment in the section below or email us with your thoughts and ideas for articles to insideMANeditor@gmail.com.

For more information about the film see www.downdogfilm.com

See also:

  • 12 brilliant adverts starring dads that everyone will love 
  • Are advertisers finally beginning to take dads seriously?
  • Why it’s time for advertisers to go father
  • The brands ignore and exclude dads is offensive
  • Finally a British advert to make us proud of dads
  • Is Boots ad sexist?
  • Angry dads defeat sexist ads 
  • Early Learning Centre apologises for sexist tweet ridiculing dads
  • Who’s the one man in TV ads British men aspire to be like 

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Filed Under: Men’s Interests Tagged With: #OneBoldChoice, #RealStrength, #WithDad, dads in advertising, Dove Men+Care, fatherhood, media portayals of men, men in the media, MenBehavingDADly, Nissan, sub-story, Toyota

The joys of being an adoptive dad

January 26, 2015 by Inside MAN Leave a Comment

What’s it like being a dad to someone else’s child? Nick Thorpe shares his personal experience of becoming father through the process of adoption.

Months before we met our son for the first time, I knew in my gut that I wanted to be his dad. The description from the social worker chimed for both of us: “A lively, sociable three-year-old with a sunny personality and a streak of mischief, C loves to talk about his feelings and listen to story books…” My wife and I put in our application, made a DVD to introduce ourselves, and decked out a new bedroom in Bob the Builder bedding.

But driving over to the west coast for our first meeting, our excitement was mingled with anxiety. Would we all get on together? Could we really meet this little boy’s emotional needs? Would we be good enough parents for him? It all suddenly felt like a colossal gamble.

We were five minutes from his foster carer’s house when a call came through on my mobile. “Hello? Are you there, Mummy Ali and Daddy Nick?” breathed a little Scottish voice. “Where are you? I’m waaaaiitiiiing …!” A few minutes later, he opened the door in his Scooby Doo T-shirt and grinned at us from behind his foster mum’s legs – and deep inside me the last ramparts of anxiety collapsed into love.

Be my parent

Six years later,  I’m trying to think how to distil everything that has happened since that momentous day, and weave in some useful advice for anyone thinking of becoming adoptive parents to the thousands of children waiting for a home.

In some ways, all the clues we needed were encoded in that first day. Within minutes C had introduced us to his much-loved toy dog called Woof (now very dog-eared but still his most treasured possession); given us a sticky-fingered tour through the photo albums of his various families (still consulted regularly as we help our 9-year-old to make sense of his past); and played together as if our life depended on it – which in the very deepest sense, it still does.

Adoption is not simply another way to become a parent. Once you’ve got through the often lengthy vetting and introductions procedure – and it’s not uncommon for this to take a couple of years – it demands a more intensive “therapeutic parenting” to restore unmet development needs and heal trauma. Traditional parenting techniques are often ineffective or even harmful: imagine how frightening ‘time out’ could be for a child who had experienced neglect.

As Adoption UK puts it: “Adopted children’s early experiences often cause deep-set confusion, fear and anger and so they can struggle with relationships and day-to-day life. This can lead to behaviour which is, initially, difficult to understand. Love alone cannot always heal the hurt.”

What is also required is a deep well of patience and understanding as these children slowly recover from searing experiences of separation, loss and trauma – and ultimately find the strength and self-acceptance to lead confident, happy lives.

Tears and laughter

As you might imagine, this is often very challenging – but it’s also hugely rewarding as healing slowly comes. There are some days when it all feels as blessed and natural as if this lively, funny child has lived with us for ever. There are others when I’m so tired and frustrated I could crawl into bed and sleep for years.

And I wouldn’t change being C’s dad for anything.

I love him so much it aches. We are woven together by commitment, by shared experience, by tears and struggles as well as joy and uproarious laughter. He’s reminded me how to play, how much we all need that magic glue, as natural as breathing – ceaseless, serious, funny, boisterous, tender play. I’ve also learned my about my own limitations, and how to ask for help more quickly.

Like all parenting, it’s an intricate, intuitive dance. There’s no simple way to do it other than to relax and forgive yourself when you fluff your steps, and stay open to the changing rhythm of the music. C has a natural yen for it, this dance of attachment. Sometimes he needs holding close in the certainty that he is loved, whatever happens. And yet there are other times when he needs me to relax and step back, trust the dance.

Being an adoptive dad is both the most challenging and fulfilling thing I’ve ever done – and it has changed my life for good.

Nick is national development officer for Fathers Network Scotland. For more information about adoption in the UK see the BAAF website. Nick includes a more detailed personal account of the adoption process (among other things), in his book URBAN WORRIER: Adventures in the Lost Art of Letting Go.

 

—photo/flickr/Niki Odophie

In the run up to the launch of a new film on Fatherhood called DOWN DOG, insideMAN will be publishing a series of articles about fatherhood and we’d love you to get involved. You can join the conversation on twitter by using the hashtag #MenBehavingDADly; leave a comment in the section below or email us with your thoughts and ideas for articles to insideMANeditor@gmail.com.  

Down Dog is released in selected cinemas on 14 February 2015. For more information see www.downdogfilm.com

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Crap dad cartoon: sexist or funny?

January 25, 2015 by Inside MAN 7 Comments

There’s a brilliant short cartoon that’s been doing the rounds on social media and is stirring up a big debate about the way dads are portrayed in popular culture. The one minute animation—“I’ll get the ice-creams”—has been broadcast by the BBC who describe it as follows:

“A man is left to look after his kids while his wife goes to fetch some ice creams. Result = chaos.”

As I watched it for the first time I was at first delighted by the beautifully timed slapstick of the piece, which showed a hapless parent struggling to prevent two young children from hilarious pratfalls. As I watched with glee, my inner gender warrior also asking:”Is that a man?”; “Is it a dad?”; “Is it a generic androgynous parent struggling with kids or is it another sexist portrayal of a useless dad?.”

And then the pay-off arrived, as the competent wife and mum returns to discover the chaos that (according to stereotype) is bound to ensue when you leave children to be cared for by a man.

So then the question arose in me, is this funny or is this sexist? I took to social media to find out how people were responding and here’s a selection of what people said. Firstly some men and women seemed to relate to the comedy in the cartoon:

Arthur Cruz: “God I can imagine that being me when I become a dad xD.”

Irene Adler: “This is not only funny but very accurate.”

Martina Ni Riain Downey: “This is what most women imagine will happen if they leave dad alone with the kids for five minutes.”

David King Wonder: “Kids with dad alone is never a good idea… LOL. I HOPE THEY STILL ALIVE.”

Glenda Carr: “I agree David, many times I left the girls home with their dad for a few hours and got back & my clean home looked like a tornado hit, I was like WTF happened in here?! Lolol.”

Tara Kennedy: “I agree with David men find it a LOT harder than women to care for children bless them, oh well.”

Taking a stand for dads

Then I started to see something interesting happen as men stepped forward and challenged the stereotype that dads are helpless with kids:

Rob Anthony: “I take care of all three of mine from morning till evening before my day begins. Ya’ll must be some sorry a$$ people to believe that.”

Graham Johnston: “You guys need better partners.”

David J Brown: “Good to see gender stereotyping & sexism is alive and well.”

Al Moanin Koasohr Eperiam: “Believe it or not there are a lot of men out there that knows how to take care of children better than the moms.”

Mums supporting dads 

And some mums waded in on the side of dads:

Renee Neri: “I hate going to the playground and my husband is actually MUCH better than me playing with them in the playground, am tired of videos making fun of dads, they are great and constantly trying to help….we need to stop putting dads down.”

Jessica Nitschke: “How sad that women don’t choose to have children with men they believe are capable of taking care of their children properly  I am blessed to be able to leave & know 100% that our children will be taken care of, the house will be in order & that I don’t have to worry! Thank God I made a smart informed decision!”

Sense of humour bypass?

Just as I was feeling justified in my belief that this cartoon is a bit sexist against men, I spotted another group of people commenting who made me wonder if I was having a sense of humour bypass:

Kelly Jo: “Can’t you just laugh? Maybe your day would be brighter.”

Metasymplocos: “Damn it’s an ANIMATION! stop trying to put your real life issues in it! Gees!” I enjoyed it!

I remembered that before my inner gender warrior kicked in, I was enjoying the skillfully crafted comedy in the film. Why, oh why, oh why can I not just laugh at funny stuff? I guess it’s because of the double standards. I guess it’s because jokes that stereotype men are tolerated in ways that jokes stereotyping women aren’t.

Maybe if I felt free to laugh at both men and women then  I wouldn’t be so critical. And  then I saw this comment and it made me feel like some kind of balance had been restored:

OhFishyFish: “Bet it took her so long because she had to park the car. :p”

Humour is often about context (you had to be there!). I don’t personally find jokes about women drivers funny, but as a riposte to a sexist joke about men, it was witty put down that speaks a thousand words about the sexist double standards that are reflected in the humour we will and won’t laugh at.

So what do you think? Is this cartoon sexist or funny?

—Photo:flickr/Fabio Di Lupo

By Glen Poole 

In the run up to the launch of a new film on Fatherhood called DOWN DOG, insideMAN will be publishing a series of articles about fatherhood and we’d love you to get involved. You can join the conversation on twitter by using the hashtag #MenBehavingDADly; leave a comment in the section below or email us with your thoughts and ideas for articles to insideMANeditor@gmail.com.  

Down Dog is released in selected cinemas on 14 February 2015. For more information see www.downdogfilm.com

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12 brilliant adverts starring dads that everyone will love

January 20, 2015 by Inside MAN Leave a Comment

For years, the tendency of big brands to sell their products by portraying fathers as idiots has been viewed as one of the leading causes of the media’s “creeping moronification of men”.

It’s an issue that perturbs both social conservatives, who link the demonisation of dads in “ad land” to family breakdown, and progressive liberals who believe the feckless father stereotype holds back women’s progress by affirming the expectation that parenting is women’s work.

So as part of our #MenBehavingDADly series of articles, we’ve decided to balance out all those negative portrayals of men and fathers in TV advertising, by compiling our top twelve favourite “dads in ads” for you starting with……..

12. McDonalds Brilliant Dad’s Voice Advert 

This tender, low-key advert that shows how Ronald McDonald House Charities provide free home-from-home accommodation for dads (and mums) with a child in hospital. The whole theme of the ad is the importance of children in hospital having something familiar and reassuring close by, in this the thing the child finds most comforting is “dad’s voice”.

http://youtu.be/GEpwdzbVZMM

Next up, Number 11 on our list is a brilliant that shows that you don’t have to say much to be a great dad, click here to see the next advert.

In the run up to launch of the film Down Dog on 14 February, insideMAN is running a series of articles about fatherhood and we’d love you to get involved. You can join the conversation on twitter by using the hashtag #MenBehavingDADly; leave a comment in the section below or email us with your thoughts and ideas for articles to insideMANeditor@gmail.com.

For more information about the film see www.downdogfilm.com

See also:

  • Are advertisers finally beginning to take dads seriously?
  • Why it’s time for advertisers to go father
  • The brands ignore and exclude dads is offensive
  • Finally a British advert to make us proud of dads
  • Is Boots ad sexist?
  • Angry dads defeat sexist ads 
  • Early Learning Centre apologises for sexist tweet ridiculing dads
  • Who’s the one man in TV ads British men aspire to be like 

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We want to hear your fatherhood stories

January 16, 2015 by Inside MAN 2 Comments

Are you a dad? Do you have a fatherhood story to tell? If so we want to hear from you!

We’ve joined forces with the makers of a new film about fatherhood to get more dads involved in conversations with other dads about their experience of, you guessed it, being a dad.

In the next few weeks we aim to publish dozens of articles about fatherhood written by you, the dads of Britain (and beyond). We’re calling this initiative #MenBehavingDADly because the writer of the film we’ve teamed up with is Simon Nye, writer of the hugely popular sitcom Men Behaving Badly.

Simon’s new film,  Down Dog, follows the heroic struggle of an emotionally absent father as he tries to build a relationship with his teenage son. That’s the film’s fatherhood story—but what’s yours?

DADpreneur 

Maybe you want to tell us about being a DADpreneur who balances work and family or maybe you’re a full-time stay-at-home-dad with a tale to tell.

You could be a champion of young fathers or a younger dad who has a view on how old is too old to be a dad.

You may be a political dad like Labour councillor Ralph Berry who’s keen to make a difference for dads in his city, or a supporter of better rights for separated dads like UKIP’s Deputy Chair, Suzanne Evans.

Maybe you’re a dad with strong opinions, who’s sick of big brands ridiculing fathers or ignoring dads altogether. Or perhaps you have an expert opinion to share on the way advertisers portray dads or some personal observations about the etiquette of men pushing prams.

DAD tips 

You could have views about what it takes to be a great dad or have some great fatherhood tips to pass on to other dads, like some advice on giving “the talk” to your teenage daughter’s boyfriend.

You may want to share your struggles with personal issues like being an unemployed dad, dealing with a miscarriage or going into counselling because your shouting at your kids.

Maybe you have questions you want to contemplate like whether we should buy kids gender neutral presents or encourage your sons to play with dolls, like Torsten Klaus who thinks we need to create a new generation of fathers.

DAD legacy 

You might want to contemplate the legacy you could pass on to your children, share a funny story about being a dad or reflect on your relationship with your own father.

Maybe you’re a campaigning dad who wants to explain why you staged a public protest or a thoughtful dad who wants to work out if he’s a masculine or feminine father (and consider which one is best).

Or maybe you have a view on why the NSPCC thinks we value fathers less than mothers and why some employers pay mums 60 times more parental leave pay than dads.

All of these stories have appeared here at insideMAN in the past few months and if you’d like to add to our evolving conversation on all aspects of fatherhood then we’d love to hear from you.

—Photo: Flickr/Paul Downey

In the run up to the Down Dog‘s launch on 14 February, insideMAN will be running a series of articles about fatherhood and we’d love you to get involved. You can join the conversation on twitter by using the hashtag #MenBehavingDADly; leave a comment in the section below or email us with your thoughts and ideas for articles to insideMANeditor@gmail.com

For more information see www.downdogfilm.com

 

 

 

 

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Why The Hobbit shows we still think it’s OK to laugh at men who are afraid

January 16, 2015 by Inside MAN 2 Comments

There are a lot of ugly characters in the latest and last of Peter Jackson’s over-blown adaptation of The Hobbit, but one of the most repellent isn’t an orc or a goblin, he’s a man.

At the heart of the film’s opening sequence, in which the dragon Smaug lays fiery waste to a lake-side town, is the comical greed and cowardice of the town’s despotic chief and henchmen as they try to escape with coffers of the town’s gold.

The chief soon meets a satisfyingly grizzly end, but one of his henchmen, Alfrid, is washed up alive and goes on to become a source of derision throughout the film. The reason? He’s a man who is an unrelenting coward.

Now let me be clear, I loved the first three Lord of The Rings films, in which evil is defeated by loyal friendships, high ideals and shining deeds – there are heroes and cowards in all of them. But unlike slippery villains such Wormtongue, the sole purpose of Alfrid’s character is for us to jeer at his cowardice.

Hate figure

With hunched back and revolting yellow teeth, Alfrid is essentially a gendered hate figure – it’s because he is a man and a coward that we’re invited to hate him. Even the goblins and orcs, revolting as they are, command more respect as fierce warriors.

Or to put it another way, Alfrid’s character could not have been played by a woman. Firstly, our culture does not shame women who are afraid and run away – in this sense cowardice is a uniquely male shame. Secondly, two hours of ridiculing and vilifying a female character simply wouldn’t be funny, it would be offensive.

But it’s when you see Alfrid in light of the female characters, that it’s clear this isn’t just an expression of outdated gender roles, but something altogether more complicated and unpleasant.

To be sure, most of the primary characters are male, but of the female characters, there are those who are heroic – such as the elves Tauriel and Galadriel – and those who are afraid and deserving of protection, such as the townswomen; but none are shamed or ridiculed. The women can be either strong or weak, while the men have only the age-old choice between bravery or humiliation.

‘You’re not a man, you’re a weasel’

All of this was dawning on me in a peripheral kind of way, until one completely contrived scene threw the whole tangled knot right in my face.

We are suddenly shown a group of townswomen huddled in a corner, before another woman charges in and declares they are as brave as the men and should go and fight alongside them. One woman however stays bent over and whimpering, refusing to go. The other woman pulls her round, only to reveal it’s the villain Alfrid dressed in women’s clothing. She spits in his face: “You’re a coward. You’re not a man, you’re a weasel.”

In one short scene, the film simultaneously celebrates a woman for emancipating herself from the traditional female role of being weak and in need of protection, while at the same time she shames a man who doesn’t conform to the traditional role of brave protector.

But The Hobbit isn’t the only recent piece of light entertainment set in a mythical past that argues both ends at once. In the first episode of the second series of the BBC series The Musketeers, a show based almost entirely on the male characters maintaining their honour by wise-cracking in the face of fear, we’re suddenly offered a soliloquy by one of the female characters on the unique shame faced by unwed women.

‘Chickens’

“If I left my husband, my family would cut me off and my friends would cross the street to avoid me. I would be nothing more than your whore… I’m a woman, d’Artagnan, a woman in a world built for men.”

OK, fine, but what about the two dozen-odd men that just got slaughtered rather than face the shame of cowardice? Why didn’t the writers invite us to have a look at that through the lens of gender too?

But the most astonishing example of all is Sky’s comedy series, Chickens, about how a village of women treat the only three men from their town who have not gone to fight during WW1.

The show is essentially a series of set pieces in which the three men – a conscientious objector, a man who is medically unfit to fight and man who is simply afraid – are shamed, laughed at and humiliated by scores of empowered and emancipated women.

Clunking double standards

In one scene, after a woman demands that Cecil – who incidentally is the one discharged as medically unfit – justifies why he hasn’t enlisted, he says: “I really believe in this war and I’m really keen to help.” She replies: “Rubbish, if you were really keen to help you would have killed yourself to raise morale.”

The writers describe Chickens as “a quasi-feminist sit-com” and according to one of the lead actresses: “What’s great is to see a village full of women who are just really getting on with it, just couldn’t give a toss that the men have gone, really, except for basic plumbing issues and the occasional need for someone to shag them.”

The thing that’s frankly bizarre, is that the people who wrote each of these clumsy dramatic expositions on gender, seem to think they’re actually making a stand for equality. It seems they don’t even realise the clunking double standards and ethical inconsistencies of what they’re saying.

There’s an old saw that says science fiction tells you a lot more about the values and prejudices of the present, than it does about the future. It seems the same can be said for stories set in the past.

By Dan Bell

— Picture credit: PinkMoose

This article originally appeared in the Huffington Post.

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What does Lynx gay kiss advert say about the changing nature of masculinity?

January 12, 2015 by Inside MAN 2 Comments

Lynx, one of the world’s most shamelessly heterosexual brands, has shocked consumers in Australia with an advert that includes a gay kiss.

The male grooming brand claims to be be used by “over 8 million blokes across UK and Ireland” every day.

 

It has proudly positioned itself as a brand that “helps guys get the girls” by producing “products that guys love” and  “ads that quickly become part of the British guy’s psyche”.

http://youtu.be/qmdlPBY7c8U

So is this a sign that the male psyche is now a bit more bisexual than it once was? Is modern masculinity more willing to accept that heterosexual sex isn’t the only way to enjoy your lynxed-up body?

Lynx’s previous adverts have shown the incredible power of the “Lynx effect” to turn average men into irresistible sex gods who cause angels to fall from the heavens, mermaids to drag them into the sea and thousands of bikini-clad babes to charge after them.

Celebration of heterosexuality 

The brand  is an unapologetic celebration of young, male hetereosexuality—until now. The latest offering from the laddiest of man brand’s shows a man on a sofa flicking through TV channels, showing clips of all the things he should do to celebrate his masculinity while he’s still got his youth.

The suggestions include “go out, see amazing things, get an amazing job, kiss the hottest girl, or the hottest boy, experiment with your hair and learn from your mistakes.”

The suggestion to “kiss the hottest girl, or the hottest boy” are accompanied by our hero in a film noir scene first pulling a hot girl to his lips and then turning away from her to  kissing a hot boy.

The advert has run in Australia and has attracted some great comments on the Lynx YouTube channel which include:

“Man, cool advert… I like many of Lynx’s scents, but never normally buy them as I’m normally turned off by Lynx’s desperate-and-horny-teenage-hetero-boy vibe in their adverts, but this advert was pretty cool especially vis-a-vis who you could kiss… may have to rethink my self-imposed ban on buying Lynx!”

“Kiss a girl or a boy! YAY you guys rock! That’s such a positive message, kiss who you want it’s all good. I saw this add on telly and automatically found it on here so I could share it with all my friends.”

“So I saw this feminism advocate comment about pushing away a woman to kiss a man… CALM DOWN WOMAN. CALM YOURSELF. You’re such a sexist freak.”

Can masculinity be a bit gay?

Masculinity has often been conceived as a homophobic construct. In 1976, for example, David & Brannon proposed that there were four standard rules for traditional, American masculinity. These included

Rule 1: No sissy stuff—distance yourself from femininity, avoid emotions, be homophobic

Who would though that masculine Lynx, whose adverts have previously been banned for objectifying women, would present homosexuality as standard expression of masculinity.

Certainly not the gay website Pink News which has described the advert as “a step forward for the men’s deodorant and haircare giant, which normally only depicts straight men, and their quests to attract more women”.

What do you think? Is the inclusion of a gay kiss in a Lynx a positive sign that men are being given more choice in how they express their masculinity or another example of the creeping feminisation of men? We’d love to hear from you in the comments section below.

Article by Glen Poole author of the book Equality For Men

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